I want to start off by saying I am not writing this article to judge anyone, merely discuss if my standards are unrealistic. Sometimes I am told I am too hard on my kids, however I see them as polite, well adjusted, happy kids.
This morning I took my daughter to the bus stop, normally we are the only ones there. Everyone else tends to show up late, sometimes making the bus wait. I don't completely understand that part. However I am used to last years bus driver, we were always on time or early, no waiting! Today was different, one of the other kids were there with her father, I've only seen him maybe three times this whole year. They bring their dog along, no problem we've all done that at some point. This gets my daughter very excited, I should also say my daughter has ADHD, for the first hour of the day I am her filter. When she says or does something not appropriate I redirect her. Back to point, she gets very excited and starts saying "Hi doggie! You're so cute doggie!" Things like that, she's not jumping around or doing anything to scare the dog so I see nothing wrong with this and I let her go. Now the other girl then says "Stop saying that Paisley!" Instantly I turn my head (I was watching for the bus cause it was freaking cold), father says nothing, Paisley ignores cause she has no idea how to process that yet. I turn back to watch for the bus, a minute goes by and again Paisley says "Yes, Zoie, you are good doggie". Again the little girl says "Paisley stop saying doggie!"
At this point I am annoyed. I would have corrected Paisley if she had said that. Something along the lines of, you know it's not nice to tell people not to say things. It's only ok to say 'stop saying that' when it hurts your feelings or is being distracting when you are in school. She has every right to talk if she is being nice, now say you are sorry. Then my daughter would and throughout the day she'd mull on this concept and even try to remind me that night or the next day the "lesson" she had learned.
But the dad just stood there, I wanted to say something but clearly it's not my place. I was thanking God that moment cause the bus was at the top of the hill! I reminded Paisley what she needed to do today told her to have fun and quickly hurried home.
Now the little girl is in kindergarten, and these little moments of "rudeness" happen, but what I wanted was the dad to say 'that's not nice to say'! I mean those are the only two sentences she said the whole time we were at the bus stop. Paisley tried to talk to her but she wouldn't reply. I don't mind that but I can't understand why nothing was said, these early moments are key! They can really prevent bullies, for kids to know the line and know their parents are watching!
Sure it wasn't "SHUT UP PAISLEY" but it's in the same city block!
Am I over reacting/thinking this? Would you have wanted the Dad to say something? Would you have said something if your child said that?
I am left confused and conflicted about the whole thing. Wondering is this a moment I expect too much out of my/other kids and parents?
I do feel better telling the story though! Thanks for listening and please honest feedback is welcome! That's how I grow!